Love and the Magic of Cacao
Hi everyone. Today I want to talk about everyone’s favourite subject – love.
When I was younger, I had an idea of what love should be… I had an idea of romantic love, a happily ever after love that you often see in movies. And as I grew up, I realized that love is actually so much more than that. Love is something that we can experience with our children, being with our friends, with family, being in nature, so many different forms of love that I really didn’t know about and now that I know, I am really extending my understanding of love.
Love is such a mystery to me. What is love, really? And as humans, it is really that romantic love with a partner that drives us. I was just with my friends and we were pondering on why we need relationships in our lives? There are so many reasons. But the most obvious one is to share love with another human being. And I just read a quote about being witnessed for your life. To have company and someone to witness our lives will make us feel so much better and helps us to feel secure, knowing that we have someone who is there for us.
We all have our own ideas on why love matters to us and why intimate romantic love matters to us. In terms of relationships, I have found that - and I am sure you’ve experienced this as well - when a relationship starts, everything is so beautiful and wonderful and exciting. Both parties are showing up for each other and supporting one another, and after years of being together, for whatever reason, they start to take each other for granted. Somehow that romance is not there anymore. To me, a relationship is like a garden – for it to bloom you have to care for it and put in the time and effort. We have to keep removing “weeds” (such as resentment, negative emotions, and releasing the things that are blocking the flow of love) and putting goodness into the relationship “garden”, giving it some fertilizer, the sun and fresh air. There are many, many ways to do this.
And this is something that I really love doing during my private Couple’s Cacao Ceremonies where I bring couples together and as we share a cup of cacao together, we start putting in much needed “juice” into the relationship, the much needed “fertilizer” in their “garden” and anything else that is much needed in their relationship, taking out the weeds and anything that is blocking the love flow. And by sharing this cup of cacao together, a couple can really become so much closer together.
In one of my recent cacao ceremonies, a few days later, the man proposed to the woman! And that just feels so amazing to me, just how the sharing of cacao can bring hearts so much closer together until they decide to commit to each other for life.
And in another Cacao Ceremony that I had done, this couple felt that their relationship was falling apart. After 20-25 years they just didn’t feel close to each other anymore. After the ceremony, everything changed for them. I met this couple a year later and they were closer than ever. They had so much gratitude for the Cacao Ceremony that I had conducted and that just makes me feel so grateful.
I feel so thankful to be spreading love in the world through my Cacao Ceremonies, which is why I wanted to share my story with you today.
So for those of you who are in a relationship, I want to share 2 things with you today that can help to add “juice” to your relationship and remove the “weeds” from your “garden” and aid in the flow of love.
1- Take some time to sit with your partner and talk about what is truly in your heart, what is it that makes you sad, what is making you upset, what is making you happy, what is really happening within you?
2- Tell your partner what you love and appreciate about them. This is how you put goodness and the “fertilizer” back into your relationships.
Just doing this every day or every week will truly make a difference. There are many many, many more exercises that I conduct for couples that I am writing about in my new and upcoming book but these are the 2 that you can try out by yourself today!
So please do try them and let me know how the outcomes. I am excited to hear from you!
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